Most people have been in at least one relationship during their lives, if not many. Unfortunately these same people can sometimes feel that they also have the best relationship advice to offer. If everyone had great relationship advice I don’t think that there would be as many break ups. The key to finding good relationship advice is knowing where it comes from. Would you want to take relationship advice from someone who has never been in a relationship? Or someone who has been married and divorced 4 times? I think that maybe someone who has had a few bad experiences may be the best for advice since they are able to learn from past mistakes.

I believe at one time or another we all find ourselves in need of relationship advice. Whether the advice is to help a troubled relationship, to establish a new relationship or even how to successfully end a relationship it is still needed. I believe more commonly relationship advice is sought after when you are nearing a break up or in the middle of one. You can get advice in many forms. Your friends may have some good and not so good advice. You can find advice in books or online.

The best advice will tell you to not to try and point blame at any one person. Sometimes when working through problems you need to move past who is to blame and focus on how to change or improve the situation that caused the problem. Good advice will help you to sustain a healthy happy relationship. You should also respect yourself when dealing with relationships. Don’t ever listen to relationship advice that tells you to beg and plead for forgiveness. Of course you should ask for forgiveness, but also you should show that you are strong and independent and your happiness doesn’t depend on another’s acceptance. If you follow good advice, you will end up in the relationship you desire.

When we engage in a relationship we all hope that it will be forever. Unfortunately that is not always the case. Sometimes people realize that they want different things in life or maybe they have had a lapse in good judgment and made some mistakes. Either way, you may find yourself in a position where you want to keep the relationship going but don’t know how to mend a broken relationship. I am here to tell you that there is hope. Don’t give up without giving an honest effort to keep things going. Keep reading my posts to help give you the advice you need.

Being ignored is the most difficult part of trying to get your ex back. When they refuse to pick up the phone when you call and delete all your text messages or emails seemingly unread, you start to really question whether you have any chance at all of getting through to them again. After all, how do you restore a relationship when they will not even speak to you?

As frustrated as you may be right now, it is important to sit back and develop a plan of action before you send her anymore messages or dial her number yet again. In fact, if you have been filling her message box and burning up her email with constant messages filled with desperation, it may do some good to back off for a day or two while you get your game together.

What Doesn’t Work

The worst thing you can do is come at your ex with desperate pleads or a sense of real emergency. Consider a couple common lines used by people in your situation. Chances are, your last message included something like this.

“Amanda, you have to call me back right away. This is the fifth message and I can’t wait any longer. Hurry up.”

“John, this is really important. It’s an emergency, so call me back real quick. It can’t wait.”

The desperation and sense of immediacy in lines such as these often reflect the agony and tension within your soul, but it is not a good enticement to get your ex back. They are not going to believe the emergency line and they will simply be turned off by desperate pleading.

Also, pleading with someone else to give you a moment of their time puts you in a negative state of mind. It degrades your sense of self and makes you feel weak and out of control. Instead of doing this to yourself, come up with a plan of action and use a proven tactic to get your ex to respond to you.

What Works

In the Magic of Making Up I talk extensively about developing a plan of action, and this is absolutely essential. If you have no plan, you could ruin everything with your ex once they do call you back or respond through text or email. I am going to tell you how to get them to respond right now, but what you do before and after they respond is way more important than the response itself.

The proven secret to getting your ex to respond to you through phone, email, or text messaging is to come at them with a positive, uplifting message that piques their curiosity and plays into their won self interest. This essentially means letting go of your own desperate feelings and making it more about them. Consider a sample line that accomplishes this goal:

“John, I am so surprised and grateful for what you did for me today. I really want to thank you or maybe return the favor, but it would be nicer in person. Call back soon, and thanks again.”

This is a great line to get a response from your ex because it will make them feel good about themselves while making them wonder what exactly they did so right. This is a positive message that puts both of you in the right frame of mind to have a nice conversation.

WARNING

Using this method without a detailed plan of action will lead to more harm and make it much harder to eventually get your ex back. What do you do once your ex does respond? This is absolutely critical if you ever wish to get your ex back.

Have a solid PLAN based on science and you have a fighting chance of getting what you want after the initial response.

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